Regardless of whether you plan on engaging in a relationship for many years or just for the night, the truth is that all partners in a relationship should feel comfortable talking about sex. Better yet, having an open conversation about sex and relationships will likely make them more fun and fulfilling. A typical conversation might include:
Someone might want to talk about what you’re “into”, or in other words, what sort of relationship are you looking for? Committed or non-committed, friendly or romantic, monogamous or open… you get the idea.
It is also important to talk to your partner about any history that either of you may have with sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Talking openly about STIs isn’t meant to be a point of judgment, but instead it gives everyone an opportunity to make honest and informed decisions about their sexual health. Furthermore, it is important to get tested regularly so that you can be honest and upfront about any infections you may have encountered, just as it is important to use protection correctly to prevent new infections.
Just because you pour someone a drink doesn’t mean you intend to offer the whole kitchen! The same is true when it comes to sex and relationships — just because you may be willing to engage with someone sexually does not mean that you can’t regulate which sexual activities are fair game or are off the table. It is important to talk openly with your partner about each person’s desires and limitations when it comes to sex. If there is an activity or zone that you are not yet ready to explore, it is important to be open and firm about your feelings. Having an open discussion about your wants and desires will certainly make for a more fun and enjoyable experience, and may even bring you and your partner closer (than you already are ;).
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